“You think you know love, but you don’t until you hold that little guy in your arms.”
Sleepless nights, endless diaper changes and cleaning spit up morphs into solving algebra problems and giving guidance through high school drama; it’s the endless, sacred bond mothers share with their children.
These moms will be celebrated Sunday, but for some, motherhood didn’t come easy.
“It makes you think that everything you went through doesn’t matter and I'd gladly do it all again”
From the moment Lindsey Pfansteil and her husband married in 2012, they knew they wanted to become parents.
After a year of trying to have a child naturally with no luck, the couple’s discouragement led them to a doctor.
“The (doctor) told us (my husband) was infertile and we wouldn’t be able to do it without help.”
With infertility treatments being so costly, the pair decided to keep trying on their own, despite the doctor’s suggestion.
“We decided to put it in God’s hands and see what happened,” she said.
In September 2013, Lindsey found out she was pregnant.
“I took five pregnancy tests to make sure I was right and I was completely shocked!”
On March 3, 2014, when Lindsey was 30 weeks pregnant and heading to a routine appointment, she was hit head-on by a snowplow after the last big snowfall in Cincinnati.
Both Lindsey and her unborn child survived, but it was a close call.
“We very easily could have been killed,” she said. “We were very, very lucky.”
Lindsey spent a week in the hospital after the accident and due to the trauma, she delivered her baby boy a couple weeks early, on his dad’s birthday.
“It’s an unexplainable love,” Lindsey said. “You think that you know love but you don’t until you hold that little guy in your arms. He’s all that matters. You’re so proud that you can create something so wonderful.”
The pair was watching an old Western movie when the baby’s name was chosen.
Tucker James Pfanstiel was born on April 20, 2014 and weighed a healthy 8 pounds flat and was 20 1/2 inches long.
“This Mother’s Day will mean so much to me and his daddy because it was such a long road to get him here!”
“It’s a lifelong blessing and a dream because I didn’t think I would live to 30”
Alicia Wilmoth had known since she was a little girl there was a chance she could never carry her own children.
She was born with a heart defect that left her living off a single ventricle, instead of two.
Alicia’s husband was aware when he married her that having a child was going to be a difficult process.
“Now that I’m 34 years old and married, the question is, how am I going to (have a baby)?"
Doctors told Alicia she could try to get pregnant but it would be extremely high-risk and with an outcome they were uncertain of.
“The doctor said a fetus might die in utero because I don’t have enough oxygen for me and the baby and there would be a higher risk of death for me,” she said.
So Alicia and her husband had a difficult decision to make: Risk an enormously dangerous pregnancy or think of another path?
“Ultimately we made the decision to go the surrogate route because I want to be here the rest of their lives,” Alicia said. “I don’t want to just carry them for nine months and not be around for them.”
The couple started by asking Alicia’s two sisters if they would be willing to carry their child, but the timing just didn’t work out.
They eventually found a surrogate mother through an agency, a woman they now refer to as an aunt.
On December 12, 2013, Alicia became a mother to twins Liam and Nora.
“It’s a lifelong blessing and a dream because I didn’t think I would live to 30 and get married and now I’ve had the opportunity to have kids,” she said.
“I get to share the blessing of life with them,” Alicia said. “Life has meant so much to me, I’m so glad to be able to pass it on to them. A little part of me can be carried on in this world.”
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